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14 hours ago, OftenWrong said:

Today young people are brought up in the world of the internet, and many think of it as some kind of blessed oracle. Just ask a question of the Googler, he will tell you everything. In fact, much more than you want to know. And yet I learned so much more in my childhood than my kids did. My kids didn't go outside as much as I did. They didn't go skating. They didn't hang out and play tag all day with other kids. They don't know how to tie a fishing knot, nor will they likely ever need to. Their main portal to reality is the web browser, and for that I pity them. We unleashed the internet, a total revolution without considering the social impact it would have on us. We need to put the genie back in the bottle.

 

I don't know why my post is missing.   It's the first response to this thread!  Was it removed??? If so - WHY?

 

My point in that post: 

  serial monogamy may be contributing to people not having any family...... but having a family doesn't seem to offer much anymore because of the internet!  Therefore, I don't think serial monogamy is the real problem!

Like I've said before, many people are in the same room, or at the same table - and yet, they don't connect, let alone talk!  You may have someone in that room physically but you might just as well be alone!

Sites like facebook only exacerbate matters for some people.

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I think I'm out of the norm here, but I do have two friends outside my immediate family, who I only see a few times a year even though we live less than 30 minutes apart.  I find it difficult to maintain friendships because I am, by nature, a loner.  Even with my immediate family, we communicate rather sporadically,  sometimes not talking for weeks or months.  

I have been with partners who were very social and it was fine, but I wasn't any happier having a busy social life than a virtually non-existent one.  I enjoyed being single, having my life to myself as much as I enjoy having a partner.

I fill most of my "social" needs through work, and perhaps if that were missing I'd find more desire for friends outside my partner and family.  Perhaps if I were widowed and not working, I'd experience being alone differently.  

Its not that I've never felt lonely, but it's been very transient and occurred not just when I've been completely bereft of friends and single, but also during the most "connected" times of my life. 

Sometimes I think media portrayal friendships is misleading and raises unrealistic expectations.  I've yet to find an article that addresses what I feel is my natural inclination; instead I'm expected to die younger and be less healthy mentally and physically, even though I find trying to maintain friendships somewhat more stressful and tiring than being alone. 

I know I'm not the only person who feels this way, but it's like we're invisible to experts who are concerned with human social habits. I recently came across a post by a young guy who planned a trip, but had no friends to travel with so his sister shamed him about traveling alone to the point he looked to the internet for validation of his comfort level with being alone.  That's kind of sad, imo. Why can't his preferences be accepted as normal?

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1 hour ago, betsy said:

I don't know why my post is missing.   It's the first response to this thread!  Was it removed??? If so - WHY?

What was your post?  

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People are lonely because we have no common mold like before where individuals had a predeterminated role in society. It also is because we do not depend on others like before. 

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2 hours ago, dialamah said:

I think I'm out of the norm here, but I do have two friends outside my immediate family, who I only see a few times a year even though we live less than 30 minutes apart.  I find it difficult to maintain friendships because I am, by nature, a loner. 

Lol, Dia.   At least we have that in common.   I'm a loner too!

In fact, when I first met hubby - when he asked me what my interests are - I started enumerating reading, painting, etc.., (all done by one person).  He had to explain that he wanted to ask me out.....:lol:  But we have our time together.  He's somewhat like me too.  We have friends, but none  that we regularly see.  

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On 8/7/2019 at 7:06 PM, Argus said:

Not sure where this belongs so I'm putting it here. It does talk about how serial monogomy has led to fewer marriages and children and thus loneliness so I think this is a decent fit.

I've encountered a couple of stories in the last two days about loneliness, which seems to be a product of our changing society.

Argus,

People have always been lonely.

Nowadays, they can talk about it. For example, have you read a Jane Austen novel?

 

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